Lisk Feng

Seongcheol (1912–1993) taught us to attain inner peace by not feeding negative thoughts and learning to accept circumstances. We don’t need to suffer more by producing unnecessary thoughts.

There are times when you assume the worst

about someone and break off your relationship for good.

At such times, stop for a moment.

Fight the impulse to have the last word

There are times when you assume the worst

about someone and break off your relationship for good.

At such times, stop for a moment.

Fight the impulse to have the last word

Not criticizing those who live a different way than you do

and making an effort to understand and accept them,

that, too, is an important part of spiritual practice.

and to make an irrevocable break,

lest you regret your decision, thinking,

“I should have kept my mouth shut.”

If you’re really drawn to someone,

do not try to control them.

Just try to enjoy spending time together.

Only then will you be able to meet again.

When you do not try to possess someone

and just enjoy their company

If you suddenly become close to someone

and start spending a lot of time together,

you can come to dislike each other just as suddenly.

You may start to feel that

the other person is imprisoning you

or that they take you for granted.

It takes time to develop trust and affection.

Wait until you actually miss each other before meeting up

You like someone,

but he doesn’t like you back;

he likes you, but you think he is just so-so;

you like each other, but those around you get in the way.

Having a relationship with someone is not easy.

But if you do not give up, and keep working at it,

at just the right season, the relationship will happen.

There is nothing more foolish

than obsessing over someone who doesn’t like you

and believing you can change that person’s mind.

Please, let the person go.

If you do,

someone else will come into your life.