Seema Anand

While many chapters are written in my voice, others are drawn from the expertise of specialists – medical guidance comes directly from doctors, the chapter on female genital mutilation is written by someone who has lived through it, and the one on ‘squirting’ is contributed by an expert in the field.

Each chapter takes a real question and responds to it in depth, with honesty and clarity, because these are not trivial doubts, they affect people’s confidence, their marriages and their ability to feel safe in their own bodies.

When people write in, what they are really seeking is someone to help them through not just the confusion and fear but also the loneliness of carrying a doubt or a question with no one to trust. This book is our at

said yes but didn’t end up enjoying it. Due to our patchy understanding of the concept of consent, many felt th

about what would happen if they said yes but didn’t end up enjoying it. Due to our patchy understanding of the concept of consent, many felt t

way, accept that you do and that your emotions deserve attention.

Tell your husband clearly you do not want to continue down this path, that you’re not comfortable with a threesome, nor an open or non-monogamous relationship. I know you are worried about what this may mean for your marriage, but honesty is going to give you a better chance of saving the marriage than keeping quiet about it.

Seek emotional support outside the relationship. You are carrying a heavy emotional load alone. Whether it’s a therapist or a trusted friend, find a space where you can process your feelings without being judged. A professional might also help you navigate